Loneliness and Sad

Loneliness-How to cope with it at home

What is loneliness

Loneliness is a feeling of sadness or even anxiety that occurs when you want company. On the other hand, it is possible to feel loneliness in a crowd, especially if you aren’t interacting with others, like in a crowded subway car or busy grocery store. Even a place can have a sense of loneliness, like an empty room just after all your guests have left.


Other term of Loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation. Loneliness typically includes anxious feelings about a lack of connectedness or commonality with other beings, both in the present and extending into the future. As such, loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by other people.
The causes of loneliness are varied and include social, mental, emotional, and spiritual factors. Research has shown that loneliness is widely prevalent throughout society among people in marriages, relationships, families and successful careers. It has been a long explored theme in the literature of human beings since classical antiquity. 

Loneliness has also been described as social pain — a psychological mechanism meant to alert an individual of isolation and motivate him/her to seek social connections.

How it happen-type of loneliness

  1. No-sweetheart loneliness. Even if you have lots of family and friends, you still feel lonely because you don’t have the intimacy connection of a romantic partner or family member or maybe you have a partner, but you don’t feel a deep connection to that person.
  2. New-situation loneliness. Normally when you moved to a new place where you don’t know anyone from your neighborhood, or you’ve started a new job, or you’ve started at a school full of unfamiliar faces not seem to be welcoming faces like a stump in the middle of the community. You’re lonely.
  3. No-animal loneliness. Normally this affects people who love animal around them at home or in their garden.
  4. I’m-different loneliness. You’re in a place that’s not familiar, you feel different from other people in an important way that makes you feel isolated. The feeling maybe with your faith which is really important to you, and the people around you don’t share that — or vice versa. Maybe everyone loves doing outdoor activities like games or outdoor sports, but you don’t — or vice versa. It feels hard to connect with others about the things you find important is not there.
  5. Untrustworthy-companions loneliness. Sometimes, you get in a situation where you begin to doubt whether your companions are truly well-intentioned, kind, and helpful to you. You’re “friends” with people but don’t quite trust them. One of the most important element of friendshipis the ability to confide and trust with each other, so if that’s missing in between, you may feel lonely, even if you have fun with your friends or companions.
  6. Quiet-presence loneliness. Sometimes, you may feel lonely because you miss having someone with you in a quiet presence. You may have an active social circle at work, or have plenty of friends and family, but you miss having someone to hang out with at you place — whether that would mean living with a roommate, a family member, or a sweetheart. Just someone who’s fixing a cup of coffee next room, reading on the sofa or watching a TV. It’s important to realize why we feel lonely, because only then can we see how we might address it. If you’re no-time-for-me lonely, for instance, maybe a solution would be to work with people on a project, where you’d be doing an endeavor together, on something you’ve all made time for. It is easier to make friend when you do a project together or doing an activity together. Breaking the ice is a difficult first step and when that is done you will find yourself included in the team.
  1. No-time-for-me loneliness. Sometimes you’re surrounded by people who seem friendly enough, but they don’t want to make the jump from friendly to friends maybe due to races, color or gender. Maybe they’re too busy with their own lives, or they have lots of friends already, so while you’d like a deeper linked connection, they don’t seem interested. Or maybe your existing friends have entered a new phase that means they no longer have time for the things you all used to do — everyone has started working very long hours, or has started a family, so that your social scene has changed.
  2. Wake up Loneliness. Sometimes when you have a nap and wake up suddenly you feel lonely just like that as if you have lost something around you. This can take the whole hours following that.

When and where it happen

Loneliness is an unplanned situation that can happen anywhere and any place for you. It is either you stay put or move around you will experience loneliness.

Solution: How to cope with loneliness.

How to cope loneliness – for divorce, in marriage, breakup, depress, loss of friend/family members.

If you are not careful your feeling of loneliness can end your wonderful live. There are available over the counter medicines but you cannot simply go there and buy it. You need a doctor prescription first. It depends very much on your situation but first you must need a person to talk to and as reference. That person you must not forget her or him. Go out together to see what are available in the forest, on the beach, shopping mall, go to church or have a cup of coffee in the café or invite her or him to your place listened to the music or good movies together.  You will in no time find yourself happy and meaningful to yourself.

Some of the music other than those found in open market are those traditional music by the Kayan tribe of Borneo called Sape’ or Sapeh. You can listen to the music for hours. It’s really captivating. Normally this type of music is played during a festival of success, wedding, engagement or just happy hour and jamming. You can listen to the string music now, click on the player. The other soothing sape music is in the video above. Play the video to listen the Kayan Sape music. The Penans also know how to play this music now.

The Sape Instrument
The Sape Instrument